It is very difficult for both elders and many times their family members to admit that an issue exists that requires the elder to have a caretaker. As we all age, our need for support is pertinent to our existence, but we do not want to lose that sense of self that allows us to remain who we have always been.
I understand that need and embrace it fully. I want my organization to be one of support and understanding as opposed to be some bossy outfit that goes in and simply takes over. It is so important that the elder feel that they are needed.
Giving out small tasks and then reminding them how helpful they are is a must. It may only take me a moment to fold socks or towels, but having them help me provides them with the sense that they are still achieving something and that they are still needed in this life.
I was speaking to my friend Tina last night at a get-together with her family and my sons’ friends. I was talking about how much easier it is for me now to display patience both with the very young and the very old. It was not as easy when I was in my 20s and 30s.
If only I had admitted a need back then for support, perhaps I would have learned the lessons sooner. Perhaps this is my time to learn and flourish!
Anyway, this is my time to know that With Age Comes Respect and I plan on lending my knowledge to anyone seeking advice. I will also help both the elders and their families know that there is a need and my organization, Time to Care is there to provide them with what they do need!