There is always a dispute in families when it comes to one parent or the other remarrying when the other parent has passed on. Grievous feelings tend to occur because children feel as though they may be forgotten in the will or replaced in the parent’s life. There can also be a sadness because the family members do not want memories to fade about the other parent.
It is hard to say how any of us will react at all until we are placed in that particular situation. As caregivers, our responsibility is to be there for the senior while listening to the other family members. Our job is not to interfere, however! If we want to display that With Age Comes Respect, then we will do our jobs, not reflect our opinions and help work through issues by just being present in the moment.
As far as the question goes, ‘should an elder remarry?’ well, that should be up to the individual. If the marriage is one of convenience and will give the elders a companion and make the rest of their life a little bit happier for the rest of their life, then I say, ‘go for it.’