I think the very worst part about my job is when I hear my clients iterate that they wish that they were no longer here because they are costing their families too much. I always have to wonder whatever happened to the belief that we owe our parents for everything that they did for us; that With Age Comes Respect.
Too often today family members are more concerned with the fact that they have their own lives; some are even more concerned about an inheritance as opposed to the fact that their relatives are still alive and deserve their respect and all the dignity that can be afforded them.
It is extremely heart wrenching to me that anyone has to feel as though they are sucking their family members dry; that their life should be over simply because of money. I have said it many times before (a thought lent me from my very smart father) that people are living longer, not always better.
Many nursing homes are still horrible and even then they cost a pretty penny. Those operated under government regulations, where those seniors go that have no more money, requires that they have no savings and that all of their social security money goes straight to the nursing home. Pretty much, the person will die penniless.
Assisted Living Centers cost even more, depending on the actual location, can cost several thousands of dollars a month. Many times this is not affordable to the normal human being. That is why many seniors are choosing to stay in their own homes with an in-home caregiver, but having a caregiver costs, too.
Every single arrow points toward money – whether a senior has it or not – it is necessary for them to continue on. It is no wonder that they get pretty depressed sometimes!