Although older people like to reminisce about the good ole’ days and tell you all about their weddings, their baby showers, parties they attended, etc., they are often no longer as psyched about the same types of activities now that they have reached that ripe old age.
In fact, many people, once they hit a certain age, don’t even like to go out any longer. They enjoy staying home, putzying around their house or yard and just taking it easy. If you think about it, they do deserve it! They put their time in.
It is just sad, as dad has stated so many times, that people are living longer, but not necessarily better these days. Really, who wants to live to be practically 100 if all of your friends are gone, if your family is not close in distance or relationship-wise, or if you are in poor health? That would tend to be depressing – even if you are not a depressed person!
So, even if the wedding or baby shower is for a grandchild or great-grandchild, it just doesn’t mean the same any more to a person advanced in age. What can you do about it as a caregiver? Well, you can listen and be there, but you cannot, under any circumstances, make them do something that they are not comfortable with.
What you can and should do is prove by your words and actions that you believe thoroughly that With Age Comes Respect – and mean it!