I see the physical, mental and emotional changes in my clients probably sometimes even before they realize that they are experiencing them. The aches and pains, the headaches, the new ailments can sometimes all stem from one thing….depression.
Although I am not the best person to speak on this topic for I think the world today relies too much on depression as an excuse rather than an actual medical reality, I can tell in elders when depression gets the better of them. To me it is very sad for I have never lived in their shoes, therefore I am not able to give them advice and sometimes my positive demeanor only adds to the stress they feel down to their bare bones.
I am a fixer and this I have a difficult time fixing. Nothing I can say or do will typically make a difference. When an elder (or anyone with real depression for that matter) gets in a ‘funk,’ there is little an outsider can do to heal their pain!
At these times, I put on my listening ears, I hold their hand, and I keep my mouth shut. This is the best way that I know how to express the fact that I believe With Age Comes Respect.