Death replaces some grief

It is hard to articulate when you have not experienced death before or witnessed the vast amount of suffering that a life-threatening illness can have on a family and their friends, but being a caregiver changes everything when this is the case with your client. Suddenly anticipating grief becomes clear. People tend to experience the same symptoms during this portion of the grieving process as they do when death does occur.
The symptoms include all of the thinking, feeling, cultural and social reactions to an expected death – both through the eyes of your client and their loved ones. These symptoms are referred to as ‘anticipatory grief’ by hospice.net.
Many times depression becomes a big part of the picture here. This is when you have to be constant in your methods of displaying that With Age Comes Respect. Although this is true, anticipatory grief can also be a good thing; allowing everyone the opportunity to experience death over time. They are able to take care of ‘business’ before the actual event of death takes place.
If your client has any religious affiliations, they can settle those matters and all matters of the heart. This can be a very special time and acceptance of the actual event can come easier to some people with the realization that their loved one is no longer suffering.
It is your responsibility as a caregiver to listen and try to understand all sides of this type of grief. Although you are experiencing grief, too, sometimes the family and friends of your client don’t want to accept your grief. You must be strong and hold on to the fact that the respect you feel for your client must go through a stage of transference if you are going to do your job to the best of your ability!

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About melissalstoneburner

Melissa is the proud mother of two boys. She also like to take care of all of her elderly clients as though they were her actual flesh and blood, too. Melissa began her elderly care business, Time to Care, in August, 2012. Since then, she has successfully seen several clients through life and onto the next life. She writes about what she knows, what she doesn't know, and reveals all the research in between. She believes that elderly care is the best thing she has ever done in life; second only to being a mother!
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