What is anticipatory grief?

The type of grief that goes hand-in-hand with a planned death (one which you realize in advance is coming) is called anticipatory grief. Many believe this type of grief to be rare.
In fact, for many of us, it is hard to think that just because a person realized that their loved one was ill and that their chance of survival was lessened to a great extent, that they could grieve that individual in advance of their actual death.
It just seems strange to me that someone could potentially accept a loved one’s death while that individual was still alive. I agree with http://www.hospicenet.org that ‘To accept a loved one’s death while he or she is still alive may leave the mourner feeling that the dying patient has been abandoned. Expecting the loss often makes the attachment to the dying person stronger.’
Anticipatory grief can help, but you cannot just rid your days of their memory once they are truly gone. Grief should not end on such an abrupt note. Anticipatory grief may also be more difficult on the sick and dying loved one. They may become withdrawn which just adds to their original pain.
As a caregiver, it is important that you help everyone, but in this instance, make certain that you are on the side of your client and showing them that you believe that With Age Comes Respect.

Advertisements

About melissalstoneburner

Melissa is the proud mother of two boys. She also like to take care of all of her elderly clients as though they were her actual flesh and blood, too. Melissa began her elderly care business, Time to Care, in August, 2012. Since then, she has successfully seen several clients through life and onto the next life. She writes about what she knows, what she doesn't know, and reveals all the research in between. She believes that elderly care is the best thing she has ever done in life; second only to being a mother!
This entry was posted in Elderly Care and tagged , , . Bookmark the permalink.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s