When “no” means NO!

Sometimes as caregivers and family members, we truly think what we are doing to help seniors in our care is the best thing for them. But sometimes ~ even with failing mental and physical capacities ~ they still know what they are willing and completely unwilling to do. It is at those very moments when we must sit back and analyze our purpose in these people’s lives.
That is the very point ~ elders are still people, too! Even if we all have the best intentions in mind, we still have to remember that overstepping the boundaries does not win friends or influence enemies ~ in this instance, it creates them! It is best to always keep in mind that With Age Come Respect and to apply that respect always ~ especially when pushing too hard!
When you seem to overstep, do NOT keep pushing. Step back, let the senior step away and rest, then try again ~ maybe this time using a softer tactic. If the help still is not welcome, try to back off completely for the day. There is absolutely no use in becoming the ‘bad guy!’ You are in place to help ~ not hurt!
The more you learn, the better your caretaking skills will become. But if you are a bully and force a situation onto a senior, you have not only overstayed your welcome, you have become the bully you never wanted to be!


About melissalstoneburner

Melissa is the proud mother of two boys. She also like to take care of all of her elderly clients as though they were her actual flesh and blood, too. Melissa began her elderly care business, Time to Care, in August, 2012. Since then, she has successfully seen several clients through life and onto the next life. She writes about what she knows, what she doesn't know, and reveals all the research in between. She believes that elderly care is the best thing she has ever done in life; second only to being a mother!
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One Response to When “no” means NO!

  1. debe1681 says:

    “They” don’t always want to do whats best but, then we do need to back off & let go for a bit. No does mean no then. Friendly persuasion is key. 🙂

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