When changes in life totally confuse matters (Posted late on 12/19 from 12/18)

It must be something awful to witness the person of your dreams becomes the person of your nightmares as they change so much that you no longer recognize them for the person that you once loved with all of your heart. At that time in life, it is easier to disguise your disgust by placing your mind in a totally different place altogether. The issue is that the changes you take on can become permanent – and affect your mental health. This happens to many spouses when the other spouse gets Alzheimer’s disease (AD) or Dementia.
My parents have had several neighbors back in Michigan that have had to deal with these issues. The thing is that the older you get, the more your spouse’s changes can affect your sanity. Sometimes it is the spouse without AD or Dementia that wish that they could simply die rather than go on and witness the sheer awfulness of the situation.
One neighbor (married over 60 years), would attempt to give his wife a shower. She was afraid of water, refused to take her clothes off; he would get into the shower with her and in the end, many times would end up being pushed over by his wife, bloody, bruised and broken – and she still was no cleaner than before. He told my parents so many times that he wished that he could just go because he wasn’t about to let anyone take care of her but him and he could not do it anymore. After she finally passed, he has no will to do anything but drink from sunup until sundown.
This many truly showed his wife that With Age Comes Respect, but in the end, he hated himself.


About melissalstoneburner

Melissa is the proud mother of two boys. She also like to take care of all of her elderly clients as though they were her actual flesh and blood, too. Melissa began her elderly care business, Time to Care, in August, 2012. Since then, she has successfully seen several clients through life and onto the next life. She writes about what she knows, what she doesn't know, and reveals all the research in between. She believes that elderly care is the best thing she has ever done in life; second only to being a mother!
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