Shared memories

There is nothing like a ‘remember when?’ moment to get one thinking about all of the good times shared with loved ones and friends. It is during these times that we can help the elderly in our lives feel peace, love and kinship as they lay there feeling scared and alone.
My son stated that his English class had a very powerful discussion yesterday; one of dying. The question posed by the teacher was whether the kids would want to know they were dying and how that could affect them. He went on to tell them that he would not want to know, thinking that it would ruin his time left.
Some of the kids posed the flipside (as many optimists will do) and said that they would rather know because then they could live out their so-called ‘bucket list’ of things to do. This is most likely how I would want things to occur.
But the elderly know that they are a ticking time bomb and for many that have not resolved issues, have been secluded away from family members and friends for great lengths of time and don’t believe that there is anything beyond this life, this is a very scary situation; one which bears fearfulness on a daily basis. It is these clients that I try to help the most with memories – even if I did not share in them – I like to listen to the so that the person recalls a fonder time.
It is the little things that we caregivers can do to make life just that much more palpable – to show those in our care that we believe that With Age Comes Respect.


About melissalstoneburner

Melissa is the proud mother of two boys. She also like to take care of all of her elderly clients as though they were her actual flesh and blood, too. Melissa began her elderly care business, Time to Care, in August, 2012. Since then, she has successfully seen several clients through life and onto the next life. She writes about what she knows, what she doesn't know, and reveals all the research in between. She believes that elderly care is the best thing she has ever done in life; second only to being a mother!
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