Sometimes as our family members age, they only want their family members to be their caregivers. This can weigh heavily on the people being counted on. In fact, if the person is young, has a family of their own, a job to hold down and financial responsibilities, this reliance can be very detrimental. This does not in any way, shape or form mean that that person is being selfish; au contraire, they are being expected to do too much and it can end up backfiring; their health could then become an issue. But what is this person to do if their family member or members only wants them to help and pushes away any other form of assistance available to them?
My grandmother did this. She made it very difficult, if not downright impossible for my mother to take care of her family, hold down her job and take care of her own finances because my grandmother would balk at any other person trying to help. Beyond that, she became downright hostile toward the people.
She obviously could not take care of herself though because her Dementia was such that she would forget to eat, forget to take her meds and then overmedicate, forget to bathe, fall and a whole lot of other things; too many to list. Watching this decline is not easy, but not being able to produce a solution is even more difficult for family and loved ones.
Over the next few days, I will discuss some options of how to how your family and loved ones that With Age Comes Respect all while finding outside sources of help for both you and them!